In your early to mid twenties, your singleness is fun. You flirt with all kinds of boys. At this point being single is no big deal. But at some point in your late twenties you start wondering if there is something wrong with you. And after being on various dating websites and not getting hits from any decent guys (you'll get plenty of winks and ice breakers from the creepy stalker guys) you start wondering if there is something profoundly wrong with you.
I remember the day I asked my therapist if she thought there was something profoundly wrong with me that no one wanted to tell me. She smiled and told me she remembered being in her twenties and feeling/thinking the exact same thing. Maybe God forgot me or doesn't think I deserve a husband. Maybe a husband is not supposed to be a part of my journey and I'm the last to know.
For a while these thoughts were a daily battle for me. I remember at one point telling God "just give me a sign one way or another. I'll be fine either way." It took me a lot of time and prayer but I finally realized that at these moments god wants you to dig deep and realize your true worth and value. And not just in a relationship, but in life. He wants you to realize you deserve so much more than what you were willing to settle for. So don't settle. For anything. Ever. As Christopher Robin (Winnie the Pooh) said, "Promise me you'll always remember you're braver than you believe and stronger than you seem and smarter than you think."
There are still days when I struggle with being single. Days I wonder if I will be single forever. And when it seems that everyone you know is coupled up and you are the last single person on the planet, know that your single life journey is a necessary part of your life journey. And that there is nothing profoundly wrong with you at all. God's just saving you for someone extra special!
Until Next Time,
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