Last week I decided to browse through Barnes and Noble to see if I found any books that looked interesting. As I was searching, Christine Arylo's Choosing ME Before WE came up. As I read through it's description I was somewhat skeptical. Not about the book being good, but did I really need a book about choosing me? I'm single. I choose me every day. What do I want for dinner? What do I want to do today? After reading some of the reviews, I decided to purchase the book. Once I downloaded it, I REALLY started thinking about how and when I choose me.
Barely into the first chapter, I was hit with the realization that I had not been choosing me. Well, at least not like I should have been. Two years ago I did choose me when I took my mother out of my life, because I did it so I could focus on, learn about and love me. Yes I have done that daily in the past two years. But when I started focusing on myself, I did it because I wanted to be in a relationship after being single for 25 years. I bettered myself so that I would be a great girlfriend and eventually a wife one day. Have you ever driven home thinking about what it would be like to have someone waiting for you or gotten up in the morning and wondered what it would be like to have someone there getting ready for work while you are as well? Have you ever imagined what it would feel like to hold someone else's hand so much you felt it in your bones? These are the things I would think about when I needed to be thinking about me.
During my journey of reading this book, Christine talks about loving yourself. Over the past two years I have learned to love myself something fierce. Yes there are parts of me that I would like to better and change, but on every level, I love who I am. No lie - I think I am the greatest thing since sliced bread! Here's a funny thing though, even with all of this self love, I have never spoken the words "I love you" to myself. Never. At least not when tequila wasn't involved! The truth of the matter is I have always wanted to hear those three magic words from a great guy. It never dawned on me to tell myself, out loud, that I love Sarah when I feel it. They say one of the secrets to a happy and long lasting marriage is to fall in love with your spouse all over again every day. If the most important relationship you have is with yourself, it makes sense that you would need to fall in love with yourself all over again ever day. Do you? I had never thought about it, but I will now!
A month ago I did something I had never done in my life - I faced my fears and went to the movies by myself. Somehow in my 27 years of existence, I had never done this. I was scared people would judge or think I was some lonely cat lady. Instead I LOVED IT!! I may never go to the movies with others again! I got to sit wherever I wanted, spread out and enjoy a movie all by myself. It was also incredibly freeing. I was taking care of myself and listening to what I needed and wanted to do.
Do you put yourself first in relationships? Do you love yourself unconditionally? Do you put ME before the WE? If not, I highly recommend you pick up Christine Arylo's Choosing ME Before WE.
Until Next Time,
Barely into the first chapter, I was hit with the realization that I had not been choosing me. Well, at least not like I should have been. Two years ago I did choose me when I took my mother out of my life, because I did it so I could focus on, learn about and love me. Yes I have done that daily in the past two years. But when I started focusing on myself, I did it because I wanted to be in a relationship after being single for 25 years. I bettered myself so that I would be a great girlfriend and eventually a wife one day. Have you ever driven home thinking about what it would be like to have someone waiting for you or gotten up in the morning and wondered what it would be like to have someone there getting ready for work while you are as well? Have you ever imagined what it would feel like to hold someone else's hand so much you felt it in your bones? These are the things I would think about when I needed to be thinking about me.
During my journey of reading this book, Christine talks about loving yourself. Over the past two years I have learned to love myself something fierce. Yes there are parts of me that I would like to better and change, but on every level, I love who I am. No lie - I think I am the greatest thing since sliced bread! Here's a funny thing though, even with all of this self love, I have never spoken the words "I love you" to myself. Never. At least not when tequila wasn't involved! The truth of the matter is I have always wanted to hear those three magic words from a great guy. It never dawned on me to tell myself, out loud, that I love Sarah when I feel it. They say one of the secrets to a happy and long lasting marriage is to fall in love with your spouse all over again every day. If the most important relationship you have is with yourself, it makes sense that you would need to fall in love with yourself all over again ever day. Do you? I had never thought about it, but I will now!
A month ago I did something I had never done in my life - I faced my fears and went to the movies by myself. Somehow in my 27 years of existence, I had never done this. I was scared people would judge or think I was some lonely cat lady. Instead I LOVED IT!! I may never go to the movies with others again! I got to sit wherever I wanted, spread out and enjoy a movie all by myself. It was also incredibly freeing. I was taking care of myself and listening to what I needed and wanted to do.
Do you put yourself first in relationships? Do you love yourself unconditionally? Do you put ME before the WE? If not, I highly recommend you pick up Christine Arylo's Choosing ME Before WE.
Until Next Time,
